What Valentine’s Day reveals about self-worth — and how to strengthen it, with or without a partner Hi, I’m a licensed psychotherapist and self-worth coach. My clinical focus is relational trauma, which is why the topic of self-love matters deeply to me—both professionally and personally. I spent many Valentine’s Days single. Not partnered, anyway. But never truly alone . Valentine’s season has a way of amplifying old wounds, insecurities, and questions about worth—especiall

Many women didn’t grow up planning for the future — we grew up surviving. When money feels confusing, emotional, or overwhelming, it’s rarely about numbers. It’s about the beliefs we inherited, the systems we internalized, and the silence around financial power. This essay explores how survival, patriarchy, and self-worth shape women’s relationship with money — and how awareness creates choice.

Codependency is often mistaken for kindness, loyalty, or being “too caring.” But beneath chronic overgiving is often low self-worth and a fear of abandonment. This article explores how codependent patterns form, why they persist, and what healing actually looks like.

Dry January offers more than a reset from alcohol—it offers a reset for your nervous system. Learn how alcohol affects sleep, anxiety, and emotional regulation, and what many people notice within the first week and by 30 days alcohol-free.

As 2025 comes to an end, I’ve been reflecting on my life—the way I imagine many of us do around this time of year. We think about our wins, our losses, what we’ve learned, and what we’d like to work on in the year ahead. I’m a big advocate of setting New Year’s resolutions and goals. Why we wait until January 1st every year to do this is beyond me—but hey, we’ve got to start somewhere. What I’ve noticed, though, is that so many resolutions are built around an almost fantasy v

Many women carry a quiet shame in their relationships—the belief that they are “too much” for wanting emotional closeness, reassurance, and connection. When a partner is emotionally unavailable, it’s easy to internalize the distance and assume the problem is you. Through personal experience and attachment-based insight, this piece explores why women shrink themselves in love, how the nervous system responds to emotional unsafety, and why wanting emotional safety was never the

Ever stayed with someone you secretly felt embarrassed by? You’re not alone. In this week’s episode, Angelica and I unpack why smart, capable women stay in relationships that dim their light — and what shifts the moment self-worth steps in. From trauma bonds to red flags we once called “potential,” we break down the messy, relatable journey of outgrowing the versions of ourselves who settled. This is your invitation to stop hiding your story and start rewriting it.

If you’ve spent years chasing emotionally unavailable men, over-giving in relationships, or settling for crumbs because you’re afraid of losing someone… you’re not alone. Healthy love isn’t just about who  you choose — it’s about who you become  in the process. The woman who attracts emotionally available, stable, loving partners isn’t “luckier”… She simply has the internal foundation that magnetizes that level of love. Here are three things you can start doing today  to shif

⚠️ Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault, Trauma, Gender-Based Violence. Please take care while reading. Pause or step away if needed. Why Disbelief Hurts More Than the Assault Itself A trauma-informed reflection on what survivors carry — and why we must do better. Sexual assault is not only a personal trauma. It is a cultural and systemic one. In the U.S., 1 in 3 women  will experience some form of sexual violence in their lifetime. These are not isolated incidents; they’re part

woman post breakup I run into this question repeatedly in my work with young women: Why is being single so intolerable? Every time it comes up, it challenges me. We know the men we’re with aren’t healthy for us. Rationally, we know we could never marry them. Some are even outright abusive - and yet, we stay. Why? Because the fear of being alone feels scarier than staying in pain. But how could that be? How could being with someone who hurts us feel safer than being alone? The

A woman gazes out the window, reflecting on her tendency to attract unavailable men, as sunlight gently illuminates her thoughtful expression. If you’ve ever found yourself falling for potential instead of presence, this one’s for you. You tell yourself you’re done with it — the mixed signals, the one-word replies, the men who say all the right things but never truly show up. Yet somehow, you find yourself here again… caring more, waiting longer, giving endlessly, hoping this

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