As 2025 comes to an end, I’ve been reflecting on my life—the way I imagine many of us do around this time of year. We think about our wins, our losses, what we’ve learned, and what we’d like to work on in the year ahead. I’m a big advocate of setting New Year’s resolutions and goals. Why we wait until January 1st every year to do this is beyond me—but hey, we’ve got to start somewhere. What I’ve noticed, though, is that so many resolutions are built around an almost fantasy v

Many women carry a quiet shame in their relationships—the belief that they are “too much” for wanting emotional closeness, reassurance, and connection. When a partner is emotionally unavailable, it’s easy to internalize the distance and assume the problem is you. Through personal experience and attachment-based insight, this piece explores why women shrink themselves in love, how the nervous system responds to emotional unsafety, and why wanting emotional safety was never the

Ever stayed with someone you secretly felt embarrassed by? You’re not alone. In this week’s episode, Angelica and I unpack why smart, capable women stay in relationships that dim their light — and what shifts the moment self-worth steps in. From trauma bonds to red flags we once called “potential,” we break down the messy, relatable journey of outgrowing the versions of ourselves who settled. This is your invitation to stop hiding your story and start rewriting it.

If you’ve spent years chasing emotionally unavailable men, over-giving in relationships, or settling for crumbs because you’re afraid of losing someone… you’re not alone. Healthy love isn’t just about who  you choose — it’s about who you become  in the process. The woman who attracts emotionally available, stable, loving partners isn’t “luckier”… She simply has the internal foundation that magnetizes that level of love. Here are three things you can start doing today  to shif

⚠️ Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault, Trauma, Gender-Based Violence. Please take care while reading. Pause or step away if needed. Why Disbelief Hurts More Than the Assault Itself A trauma-informed reflection on what survivors carry — and why we must do better. Sexual assault is not only a personal trauma. It is a cultural and systemic one. In the U.S., 1 in 3 women  will experience some form of sexual violence in their lifetime. These are not isolated incidents; they’re part

woman post breakup I run into this question repeatedly in my work with young women: Why is being single so intolerable? Every time it comes up, it challenges me. We know the men we’re with aren’t healthy for us. Rationally, we know we could never marry them. Some are even outright abusive - and yet, we stay. Why? Because the fear of being alone feels scarier than staying in pain. But how could that be? How could being with someone who hurts us feel safer than being alone? The

A woman gazes out the window, reflecting on her tendency to attract unavailable men, as sunlight gently illuminates her thoughtful expression. If you’ve ever found yourself falling for potential instead of presence, this one’s for you. You tell yourself you’re done with it — the mixed signals, the one-word replies, the men who say all the right things but never truly show up. Yet somehow, you find yourself here again… caring more, waiting longer, giving endlessly, hoping this

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Family avoiding arguments this holiday season The holiday season is meant to be a time of togetherness, joy, and gratitude, but for many families, it can also become a battleground for heated arguments—especially when controversial topics like politics, societal issues, and differing worldviews are brought up at the dinner table. With the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday and the months ahead, many families are bracing for tense conversations that could sour the mood and strain r

Understanding attachment styles is key to building healthier relationships, both with ourselves and others. Our attachment style— the way we relate to others in close relationships —is shaped by early experiences with caregivers and can influence how we navigate romantic, familial, and social connections throughout our lives. Among the different attachment styles, anxious attachment  can often lead to difficulties in relationships, characterized by a deep fear of abandonment,

Taking the first step to therapy can feel scary and overwhelming, but the benefits are worth it, if your goal is become the best version of yourself. You were placed on this Earth because you deserve it!

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