Codependency is often mistaken for kindness, loyalty, or being “too caring.” But beneath chronic overgiving is often low self-worth and a fear of abandonment. This article explores how codependent patterns form, why they persist, and what healing actually looks like.

Many women carry a quiet shame in their relationships—the belief that they are “too much” for wanting emotional closeness, reassurance, and connection. When a partner is emotionally unavailable, it’s easy to internalize the distance and assume the problem is you. Through personal experience and attachment-based insight, this piece explores why women shrink themselves in love, how the nervous system responds to emotional unsafety, and why wanting emotional safety was never the

Ever stayed with someone you secretly felt embarrassed by? You’re not alone. In this week’s episode, Angelica and I unpack why smart, capable women stay in relationships that dim their light — and what shifts the moment self-worth steps in. From trauma bonds to red flags we once called “potential,” we break down the messy, relatable journey of outgrowing the versions of ourselves who settled. This is your invitation to stop hiding your story and start rewriting it.

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