It's not bad luck. It's not your "type." The real reason you keep choosing unavailable men has nothing to do with chemistry - and everything to do with what you believe you deserve. If you've ever gotten the ick from a good man or ran back to the one who hurt you, this is for you.

Many women carry a quiet shame in their relationships—the belief that they are “too much” for wanting emotional closeness, reassurance, and connection. When a partner is emotionally unavailable, it’s easy to internalize the distance and assume the problem is you. Through personal experience and attachment-based insight, this piece explores why women shrink themselves in love, how the nervous system responds to emotional unsafety, and why wanting emotional safety was never the